SECRETS OF OUR HEARTS
The book, Secrets of a Woman’s Heart In Love addresses women’s strengths and vulnerabilities in regards to their intimate relationships with men. It brings out real-life, heart-felt concerns, the joy, challenge and hope of love, in a poetic and lyrical style and gives women a chance to delve into their identity and into the depths of our hearts.


We express our womanhood through affection, nurturing, romance and beauty and because of that deep longing to love we often lose our selves and our balance in this world. From the time of creation, the original intention of woman as helpmate has been misunderstood, misused or ignored. We were created as partners with man, in loving one another, producing and loving children and managing the earth. Understanding God’s original intention for women leaves no room for abusing, controlling or demeaning them.

Facing all aspects of our womanhood unreservedly, femininity, sensitivity, nurturance, motherhood, beauty and sexuality, as well as all of our intellectual abilities and special gifts, gives us as women the insight and courage to celebrate and honor ourselves, build healthy marriages, utilize our talents, make healthy and safe sexual choices and teach our children to be strong and loving.

There is a graceful dance we women are called to dance with our male counterparts and it requires acknowledging the challenge of dealing with our opposites as well as the challenge of finding respect and equal treatment in society. Our unique differences as women reveal and accentuate our indispensable nature.

TRANSFORMING THE MALE/FEMALE RELATIONSHIP
If you want to understand the way things should be, look at how it was in the beginning, how the designer intended it to be. This is especially true for the male/female relationship. It is male and female that describes the being of "man" The human creation is only complete by the existence of male and female. When Eve emerged from Adam as a separate being, he had to recognize her as his mate, different from the animals and different from him. She was the climax of creation; the ultimate symbol of God's beauty and tenderness. Adam saw in her a part of himself but also his opposite. He recognized that here was his ultimate intellectual, sexual, emotional and familial partner. His Wo-man.

As we have all seen and probably experienced the male/female relationship has deteriorated since then. Man has dominated women, using his physical power and natural aggression to control and oppress the woman in many areas, and woman has used her natural femiminity to seduce, manipulate and control the man. We have often identified our opposite as the "enemy" when they were designed to be our best friend and partner.

There is hope however, and that hope is through the promise of Christ who has renewed those who believe in him and has shown us the true purpose of the male/female union is Christ and the Church, husband and wife, protector and cooperator, that which in union brings life, new fruit and tranformative love. The union which challenges because of the sacrifices and patience required also heals because of the intimacy and forgiveness that is possible. The power of the man will no longer be used to lord over her but rather to lovingly protect and and lift up adoringly, the beauty of the woman will no longer be used to seduce him, but rather to warmly embrace and draw into loving family life. "I am now going to allure her; I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her. . .You will call me 'my husband'; you will no longer call me my master." Hosea 2:14. This is the promise, this is the possibility. Never settle for less, always move toward the light of God's intended will. He is the ultimate one who is alluring us and calling us tenderly into the desert to trust him and call him 'my husband'.

WOMAN - THE HEART OF GOD
Women in a society reflect the nurturing, beauty and mothering strength of a society. They bring a balance and completion to societal life. They are the primary educators of children. They provide love and support to husbands and they also excel in their own intellectual pursuits (given the opportunity).

All families’ survival depends on women having a place of safety and sacred respect. The safety and respect women are given in a society directly reflect the men’s self-respect and level of true strength and self-esteem. All real men take shame in their women being mistreated and conversely take pride in uplifting and protecting them.

It must be society's first priority to restore protection, dignity and honor to women who should be highly esteemed, carefully protected and fully utilized in a society.

Protecting and honoring women is an essential requirement to protecting the value of the family. There is no value of family without honoring the sacred being, the woman, from whom life emerges. It is only the woman whom God has designed to carry and intimately connect with a child before it even enters the world. Because of that honor bestowed on the woman, she is uniquely suited to be attached to, and care for the children. She has the ability to draw the father into a more connected relationship with his own children. It is also innately within her to build all relationships in the family and to express love in overt and comforting ways.

The protection of women begins with men forming an emotional bond, and an esteemed view of women. Men who feel emotionally tied to the mother of their children are far less likely to abuse those women. However, the woman should not only be viewed as the esteemed “mother” to society but the “partner” who completes man. The man is sadly limited if he only sees her utilitarian role of cook, cleaner and raiser of children. She was designed for so much more. In fact when she was made from Adam’s rib, she was the highlight, the fantastic culmination of God’s creation. She was made to be one who Adam would recognize as coming from him, as completing him and fulfilling his soul. The man is therefore left in a conundrum. Any acts of kindness or meanness toward her will directly impact his soul and in so doing he will be placing blessings or curses upon himself.


The woman is the man’s advisor, nurturer and balancer. Woman is not just EVE (mother to the world) but EZER, (one who the man is interdependent on), the half of himself who he cannot be complete or fully “man” without. It is through a relationship to the woman, that the man becomes better and more balanced. Because of the woman, he strives to achieve, desiring to show her how capable he is. Because of her, he seeks to gain knowledge and training so he can provide for the woman. And because of her he strives to be strong and courageous so he can protect her.

A man’s best motivation and truest humanity is wrapped up in his relationship to the woman. It is essential that the man not only see her utilitarian role as significant but recognizes that an intimate, loving relationship with the woman is actually indispensable to his healthy existence. Neither man nor woman will ever be able to operate independently. Man and woman independent of one another is an illusion. We are by nature interdependent beings. This is true whether one is married or not. In a community, women play a general role of supporting and nurturing all men and men likewise of protecting all women.The most mature of men also strive to build their weaker area of emotional expression and intimate communication so they can enjoy a life of closeness and understanding with the woman.

She is the voice for the heart of mankind and she is the touch of tenderness. She is the last line of defense for the survival and nurturing of the children. Rarely will you see a mother abandon her family. The woman in all her spiritual glory brings compassion, communication, beauty and joy to families.